How to Get Your Ex Back

It is a hard decision to break up but even harder if you are the one who didn't want it to end. Since there are likely many factors that contributed to the breakup it's difficult to say with certainty that repairing the relationship is possible.

The first thing to consider is why you broke up in the first place. The breakup may have occurred due to one single event or due to a change in one's behaviour over a long period of time. At this point you need to consider how important this relationship is to you and whether you really want the relationship to work. The reason you broke up may be used as an opportunity to maximise your chances of getting back together. A staggering 90% of people fail at this step, not because it is too difficult but because they don't know how necessary this step is and why.

Now that you have decided that this is really what you want, you need to follow a plan to get you ex back. It is critical not to seem needy, you need to clear your thoughts and restore your sanity. You must not allow yourself to be jealous. Remember that jealousy is an emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values (i.e. a relationship!).

It is important to use the strength within you. The steps to a stronger relationship are simple to remember, but not always easy to carry out. Open and honest communication is the first step. The longer you stew over something, the harder it is to deal with and the more baggage, anger and hurt attaches to it.

The second step is caring. Do you care enough to work things out? Do you care enough about yourself and the other person to confront, and to keep short accounts with each other? Care enough to give apology when hurt is caused, even when you may not think what you said or did was necessarily wrong?