Getting back with an ex does not need to be complicated. After all, you should know by now what makes this person tick and what ticks him or her off. However, for the sake of saving your relationship, here are some things you should not do if you want to get back together. One: deluge him or her with phone calls and discussions why you should not have broken up in the first place. (The line: "I gave you the best years of my life," does not work.) Two: stalk your ex like your life depended on it. Three: make yourself a nuisance by being constantly in his or her face saying bitter stuff. Assuredly so, these are not the ways to getting back together.
So let's go the other route here. Here are the easiest, effortless, and fastest get-your-ex-back tips.
1. Learn when to keep from speaking out. Some people make the mistake of nit picking with an ex during the get together again stage. These people have the unfortunate tendency of pointing out flaws, faults and past issues that should never come up in the first place. There will be a time for discussions... maybe when you two have finally decided that this relationship is worth another chance. But certainly the bitterness of the situation should never come up. If your ex demands a sit-down discussion which you really cannot circumvent anymore, try to keep the exchanges positive and light. If you cannot, then silence is your best defense. You should note that if you really want him or her back in your life, then silence may be just the thing to soothe over new wounds or old, un-healing words.
2. Remember the reason why you fell in love with this person. At the same time, remember how you won over his or her heart. This is the thing that the other person is actually looking for: that same spark that literally got the heart bubbles floating. If you are simply focusing your attention on what the other person had given you, without any thought at all about what you had (either inadvertently or purposely)done to gain those heart bubbles, then you might be in for a long "getting to know each other again stage." Take action and try to revert to the original, romantic "you."
3. Revisit good memories by actually but "unintentionally" recreating it. Believe it not, a healthy relationship benefits greatly from any reliving, no matter how corny it may seem. If you two have a special place you like going, then go there on dates or even just visit the place for (seemingly) no reason at all. This will help spark up some fond memories of your earlier times together. It takes a lot of creativity to make this seem "unintentional," but if it works... then it works. If your partner sees right through your ruse, 'fess up early. Make a joke about it and end the discussion with simple, "I miss those times when we were happy here." That line should melt hearts in an instant.
It may sound ironic but yes - sometimes the easiest, effortless and fastest route to recovering your ex by taking things slowly. Keep your peace, keep things positive, and relive the good ol' days with him or her.
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